If you hate Tina Fey, you’ll hate this book. If you love her, you’ll love the book.
Now, the specifics:
There’s a little bit of everything here. Fey talks about her life and family, what it’s like to be in show business, the differences between men and women in show business, SNL, fellow actors, being a wife and mother, and more.
The title comes from the endless questions women get about being in charge. Just like Donald Trump is endlessly asked how hard it is for him. This is one double standard that won’t end any time soon, if ever. Having lady parts means you have to be an expert at home life and work life. Guys seem to only get asked about the work life since the home life is effortless.
Fey talks about her dating history and her failed attempts with guys. Hot girls are always hotter when they don’t realize how hot they are. She gets that she’s got the librarian fetish going for her but is bemused by being thought of as sexy when guys in her past told her she’d be pretty if she lost weight.
I enjoyed her sections about photoshopping and what is was like watching the women “take over” SNL. She doesn’t really hand down social commentary about things, but simply writes about her life and the things that were part of it. The social commentary is there because you can’t separate the two. She compares her style with Lorne Michaels but not in a gender study way. She shows his responses compared to her Bossypants attitude.
There are universal themes that are completely female because Fey is female. She struggles with being a mom and working. She struggles with the decision to have or not have a second kid. She wonders if she should have felt bad about wanting to leave her husband to die in the ocean if they had actually had to evacuate women and children first. You know, the stuff most women have to think about.
There’s a little bit of many things in here. She gets specific about parts of her life, general about others and her voice is clear throughout. Sometimes I’ll pick up a memoir that was clearly written by someone else. Even without listening to the audio version, her voice is there.